After dating for a while, it becomes more and more apparent: You really like this guy, and you can't imagine yourself without him. Finally, you are ready to drop the big L word. There's just one problem - what if he isn't, and saying it would only ruin what you both have? Here's an eye opener, girl. You don't have to say "I love you" first just to get him to say it. If he wants to, he will. Chances are, he's also only waiting for you to say it, since his ego can't take getting laughed at. So, here are tips to subtly get your man to tell you he loves you.
Do not wait for the words to come out.
If you are waiting for a verbal, face-to-face I love you from your man, you are not getting it anytime soon. Men can get nauseous and nerve-wrecked just thinking about how to say it. It's not that they don't want to, but look for actions instead. He gives up weekend with his boys for you, and talks about you in his future all the time. Those are signs. Hang in there.
Clue him in.
He may want to say it, but doesn't have the faintest idea what to do. He is, after all, just human, and he wants it to be perfect. He also doesn't want his ego bruised. Encourage him a little bit. Lead him in. Spend time with him, cuddle, and laugh at his jokes. Tell him you really like spending time with him, and do something special for him, like cooking dinner or baking him cookies.
Do not pull off an attitude.
Once some girls decide they want to hear it, they go through the whole 180degree change. They may become more demanding and needy, and too emotional for their man to handle. This drives guys crazy and they will be out of your life before you know it.
Resist the need to flat-out ask him about NOT saying it.
This sends off the message that you are desperate. If you are enjoying his company, let it be this way, unless you've given yourself and the relationship an expiry date or a make-or-break condition. If you do ask him flat-out if he loves you (or worse, ask him why he doesn't say he loves you), you will only pressure him into saying it, or leaving you prematurely.
Let him know you know.
Here's a good way to paraphrase the idea that you need him to say I love you. The best way to tell him this is after you've spent a good amount of time together, and you know in your heart he's really into you. While cuddling in bed, for instance, tell him you appreciate everything he's doing for you, and you would really love you hear him say what he feels. That's it. Never say you would love to hear him say he loves you. Just "what he feels" for you.
Stay out of the picture for a while.
It may seem super mean, but sometimes it takes a little "missing" to make him feel he really needs to seal the deal with those three little words. Get out of the city and spend quality time with your friends. Make him miss you like crazy, and he will realize he needs to hold you down with those words.
Finally, give it a rest.
Unless you are brave enough to say it yourself, you might as well resist sleepless nights thinking about when he is going to say it. Enjoy his company instead, and give him time to really realize he loves you, and in time, he will.
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