Are you still looking for that "perfect match?" Have you been on the dating scene for some time now and still wondering why you're single?
Perhaps you've received little tips and pieces of advice from friends and family but, in my experience, the time you will be most successful will be when you least expect it. That old saying about when you stop looking is when you will find love is very true. I believe that when you are actively seeking love you create sometimes without knowing, a barrier around yourself that just screams "I AM LONELY!" or "NOBODY LOVES ME!" possibly even "I NEED YOU!" Well once you are in a relationship and you find yourself occasionally feeling those feelings, you can communicate that to your partner and that will usually help you to get over feeling that way. BUT when trying to find someone to establish a relationship with, displaying an aura that makes statements such as that are a sure fire way to keep people away!
When I was dating I found it funny how many men thought they really "had it going on" of course some did, but most often, perhaps out of sheer conceit they came across like obnoxious buffoons! Confidence is an important attribute while dating but you've got to find a balance. Being overly confident a lot of times is a big turn off to both men and women. While the same is often true when you haven't enough self esteem or confidence. Once you find your middle ground and what feels right to you, you will be in the best position to meet that special someone because your self confidence will be apparent to everyone and that is a very attractive quality for both men and women.
I am currently married to husband number two, and this will surely be my last. We've got a great connection and it's been there right from the start. We have an equal understanding of one another's expectations and we've both been through it before. We have learned that relationships take work and although it's not always easy, the end goal is to achieve "happily ever after" status with one another. This kind of understanding of one another has been a very important part of maintaining respect and has allowed us to keep our lines of communication open.
I am certainly not pretending to be an expert. I am simply pointing out some things I have noticed both from personal experience and from observing friends and family members throughout many different stages of their lives.
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