A lot of guys, they kind of get stuck on what they should do and what they should say when they want to flirt with a woman. Flirting can be a very frustrating experience when you just don't know what to do. I mean, you crack a few jokes, banter back and forth, and then you are at a loss for words and what to do next.
This is when you need to bring in the storytelling. Now, don't get me wrong, not every guy will be able to pull this off. And it may take some time and some experience to really start telling stories that compel a woman to make her really want to just keep on hanging around you.
Still, when telling a story, you get the opportunity to do lots of things. You can brag about things in a very subtle way, you can show her that you know how to have a good time, and you can kind of bond with her on an emotional journey that she gets almost hypnotized by when you pull it off right.
So what kind of story telling works best when you are flirting with a woman?
Here are some tips on effective story telling to attract and flirt with women:
1. Do not bore her about things that she would need to have "inside" information to really get and appreciate the story.
If you have some geeky kind of job, and there's nothing wrong with that, but don't go and tell her some story that people outside of your profession are not going to get. For example, you might have a story that would crack up another computer programmer, but to anyone else, it is just going to sound like geek speak. You need to be able to focus in on stories that can be universally appreciated, unless of course, you do have a similarity with her.
2. Toss in some emotional trigger words.
Two people can tell the same exact story to a woman and evoke completely different responses. You need to toss in some words that are going to trigger an emotional response from her. Why is this so important? Because when a woman goes on one of these emotionally charged experiences with you that you are sharing with her, you can create a bond and a rapport with her that will be very strong.
3. Do not tell her stories that are going to paint you in a bad light.
It might be funny with all your guy friends to tell a story about how you got drunk and ended up with your head in the toilet and throw up all over the inside of your car, but it's only going to make you look like some overgrown frat boy in her eyes. You need to pull out stories that make you look good, but not too good, so that her attraction to you grows.
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